Assalamu aleikum,

Since there was nothing that considerably bugged me today, I had to go fish a bit deeper into the ocean of annoying things that serve as a wonderful resort for topics to write about…


I’m probably the best example I know of how not to do things, but nevertheless I see it as a duty to write this blog in order to tell you lot what I didn’t realize I was thinking before I wrote it down. It’s like thinking aloud – which is said to be the first sign of insanity. Well, I might be crazy “but what can I do, so are you.” (and if you know who i’m quoting, you’re a bigger loser than me.)


Have you ever noticed how much time people spend on average injust complaining about things? It’s insane how little we actually think of the things we say. In Islam however, useless talk is in fact considered, not just inapropriate, but haraam. Now… If we were to take a statistic look of the things we say during the day, and count what’s actually useful, I’m pretty sure we’d end up with some really depressing results. In Islam, all talk that is devoid of mentioning and remembering Allah is, in fact, useless.

This sounds fairly difficult doesn’t it though.. I mean… How can you talk about Allah all the time?

Well, in the life of a muslim it is possible to make each and every single deed an act of ibaadah. By learning the duas and the sunnas of the Prophet (sallallahu aleihi wa sallam), even going to the loo becomes an act of worship.


Sounds ridiculous?

Definitely, but then again, a lot of things sound ridiculous, and people do them all the time (like reading horoscopes or celebrating the birthday of a God who came to flesh just to die for your sins. Yes. It does sound even more stupid when you put it in writing.)


As I have mentioned before, it’s terribly easy to convert to islam (I.e by proclaiming shahadah) , but very difficult to become a muslim (i.e. one who is subjected in every way to Allah). Thus to a mu’min(a true believer (and no, it’s not pronounced moomin.)) remembering Allah at all times comes naturally, since a mu’min has realized that Allah actually really DOES watch over him/her at all times.

Now by complaining we don’t really benefit anyone; most of the time we actually complain because there’s an awkward pause in the flow of discussion, and we want something to talk about. Complaining is not supposed to lead anywhere, since the complainer is not actually interested of solving the problem (since it’s of course someone else’s fault in the first place, and besides the reason for complaining is never really important,it’s the actual act that matters.)

There are some people who live to complain. A friend of mine told me that her mother lives to complain, to the extent that she can actually go to a stranger in the street and start complaining about something.


Then there are the people who live to gossip. Now… I’ve always associated gossiping with teenage girls and little old ladies. These people usually don’t have enough life of their own so they have to be interested in everyone else’s. We, as muslims, have been forbidden to talk about other people. Ghiiba (backbiting) doesn’t, in Islamic terminology, mean just something bad you say about someone, but anything the other person wouldn’t like you to say about him/her. And since we can never really be sure what the others want us to say about them, it really would be better not to say anything.

So definitely the muslims don’t speak ill of others?

– Wrong.. Instead muslims seem to be the masters of slandering each other, both in public and privately.

629_2gossip.jpg (just for the record, backbiting is compared to eating the flesh of your dead brother. you backbite, you go to hell.ermm… just for the sake of it.)

The most annoying bunch of all though, is the chitchatcrew. You know, the people who won’t talk of anything sensible, and when you try to bring the topic to something more productive, they go “yeah, ok” and continue to chitchat away, like they never heard you say anything. These are the people who report every and single little thing they do on facebook, and get involved in different kinds of activities just so that they can write it on their status message. If a person like this has an agenda- some superior purpose in their life; they become twice as annoying. They then brag about everything that they have done to achieve their goal, as if it was the same goal everyone else had as well. I once knew this person who used to think she was some sort of a big name in a certain political activist group. She very openly supported this group and told everyone she met everything about the group’s activities (even thought they were probably not supposed to be discussed outside the group).She had such a huge need to be a part of something bigger than herself (and to be associated with something she probably considered to be radical and shocking), that she didn’t really care how much people got annoyed by having to listen to her endless rants on the subject. Some people get that way about their kids/pets/job/partner/hobby… The target can be anything, and of course what it is doesn’t really matter, since the point is to appear to be the expert of something.


In the month of Ramadhan we should be extra careful with the things we say, look, hear and do. As this is the month of the Quran, we should spend more time studying it than we usually are. However Allah won’t accept the fasting of such a person who mainly remains hungry but brakes his/her fast with their tongue by uttering bad things about others or getting mad.

The Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) once ascended the pulpit, and on the first step He said “Ameen”, when he placed His foot on the second step He said “Ameen”, when He placed His foot on the third step he said “Ameen”.

So when He descended after the sermon had ended, the companions asked him, “O Prophet of Allah! Today we have seen you do and say something that we haven’t observed before. You ascended the pulpit and upon each step you said “Ameen”. Why?” The Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said “When I began climbing the stairs of the minbar, Jibreel (عليه السلام) came to me and He made dua’a, He prayed, upon the first step, I said “Ameen”, upon the second step He made another dua’a and I said “Ameen”, upon the third step he made a third dua’a and I said “Ameen”. And the first dua’a was ‘O Prophet of Allah, may that person be removed and distanced from Allah’s mercy, who finds the month of Ramadan and then the month of Ramadan passes and yet he is still unable to earn forgiveness for his sins’. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said “Ameen”, then He placed His foot on the second step and Jibreel (عليه السلام) made a dua’a that ‘O Prophet of Allah, may that person be removed from Allah’s mercy, in whose presence your noble name is mentioned and yet he does not pray salaat and salaam upon you’. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said “Ameen”, then when He placed His foot on the third step Jibreel (عليه السلام) made a dua’a that ‘O Prophet of Allah, may that person be removed from Allah’s mercy who finds one or both of his parents during his lifetime and then both of them die, or one of them dies and that person has still not yet earned Allah’s forgiveness and entry into paradise through his service to them’. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said “Ameen”.

May Allah make us worthy of gaining forgiveness for our sins, and let us not increase them by useless, vain speech.


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